The idea that a marriage should be arranged by the parents of the couple, or by other members of the family, is quite acceptable in some societies, yet completely out of the question for others. It all depends on your cultural expectations.
In so-called western societies, it is very unusual for marriages to be arranged. Most young people would not welcome the idea that their parents have the right to choose their partner for life. They feel that arranged marriages deny them their fundamental right to choose, even if they make a bad decision.
However, if we are honest about it, we might acknowledge that some parents organise their children’s lives in such a way that they are likely to meet and marry partners the parents approve of. It could be said that this is, to some extent, similar to an arranged marriage. It is always better when families support the relationship and welcome the grandchildren.
People for whom arranged marriages are the custom, often argue that the likelihood of the marriage lasting is greater when it is set up in this manner. Parents can be assured that their children are joining a family of similar standing and cultural background, and this, in the long run, makes for a more stable society. If your parents’ marriage was arranged, and has worked well, then why should you question the custom?
The important thing to ensure is that people are never forced into a marriage which will make them unhappy or lead to an unequal relationship where one partner is exploited by the other. This applies in all societies and situations.
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Comments (not part of the essay)
The first paragraph introduces both systems.
The second paragraph gives views against arranged marriages, supported by reasons.
The third paragraph concedes that some western marriages compare to arranged marriages.
The fourth paragraph argues in favour of arranged marriages and supports this view.
The final paragraph concludes that both systems should result in happy marriages.
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